Society changes. Also the children and of course, education. Before our parents They gave us more freedom to face risks. They gave us time to get bored. And the limits were clear. And, alas! who dared to challenge the limits ...
Today children live overprotected. Parents save them 'suffering' and risks. They point them to a thousand activities so that they are entertained and apply fewer rules and punishments so that the children do not get traumatized ... It is evident that the children are not the same. And psychologists warn: if we lose sight of these 5 basic rules, our child will have more serious problems. Aim, because these are unanimously Harvard's 5 Commandments for Being a Model Father.
Psychologists from the prestigious Harvard University they advocate going back to the past in certain aspects. Faced with the new digital era, they rescue a series of basic premises that no parent should forget if you want to be a model parent:
1. Spend more time with your children. Parents today are very stressed. Most are 'multitasking' parents. Therefore, the easiest thing is to get home and let the children play video games. It's the only way to get some rest ... Big mistake. The time that you do not spend with your child is never recovered. Children who live with the feeling of an 'absent father' end up having very damaging affective and emotional deficiencies.
2. Talk more with your children. Talk, converse ... ask every day. Not just the typical 'how's in school?' Surely this question ends with a 'good' and end of the conversation. Be interested in meeting his friends, ask about them. 'Did anything funny happen in class today?', 'Come on, tell me what you play at recess ...'. Try to get to know your child more. Remember that he behaves differently at school. You really won't know him well until you discover all of his facets.
3. Teach them to solve problems without giving the result. And who says problems says conflicts. It is not about giving children the final result of the sum. It is about giving him clues so that he only reaches the result of the sum. The same goes for conflicts. 'What exactly is going on?' 'How would you solve it?' 'What do you think would happen if you made that decision?' ... Let him make the decisions. You can never learn if you make decisions for him.
4. Thank the children and acknowledge their accomplishments every day. There is no better medicine for self-esteem than gratitude and recognition from parents. Remember every day what you did well. This will help you to trust yourself more and in turn will teach you the value of gratitude and compassion.
5. Let them become aware of the problems of the world. Many times we try to 'save' them the trouble of seeing what is happening in the world: wars, hunger ... We must also let children be aware of what is happening around us. This will make them exercise empathy and compassion, and make them feel necessary for the first time. Perhaps if he is aware that the world has many 'problems' to fix, he will realize that he can be important to change everything.
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